Weddings have gotten increasingly more expensive as the years go on - trust us, we know! Some parents started saving for their child’s wedding since they were born - but weddings twenty-some years ago did not cost as much as they do now. Weddings are often seen as a status symbol, so families will go to great to great lengths to hold extravagant affairs that sometimes last more than one day. Families willingly go into debt often taking out large personal loans just to pay for these extravagant weddings. So then the question becomes, which family should be paying for the wedding, the bride’s or the groom’s? Let’s take a look at the answer according to each country’s traditions. Keep in mind that these are just generalizations and may not apply to each family.
Different Countries’ Wedding Cost Standards
China: The groom’s family pays for the entire wedding, traditionally.
Japan: One of the families will decide who foots the bill for the wedding and how much to spend on it.
Indonesia: Traditionally, the groom’s family will pay for the wedding in Indonesia.
Thailand: The groom will pay for the wedding, traditionally. A groom is also expected to pay a dowry to the bride’s family prior to the marriage. The dowries can be expensive, so be prepared for that.
Malaysia: The two families meet to discuss how much the groom’s family will give to the bride’s family for expenses. The groom will also pay a small portion of money to the bride’s family before the wedding. This amount of money is set by a council.
Taiwan: The groom’s family will pay for most of the wedding in Taiwan.
Hong Kong: Traditionally, the groom pays for the wedding. The groom also gives money to the bride’s family.
Philippines: The groom’s family pays for most of the wedding day expenses.
South Korea: The two families will meet prior to the wedding to and discuss financial arrangements. Typically, just the families will pay for the bulk of the wedding.
Singapore: The costs are split. The groom and/or groom’s family will pay for the bulk of the wedding expenses, including money paid to the bride’s family. The bride and/or bride’s family will pay for certain expenses like gifts for the bridesmaids, the dresses, and fees for a church ceremony if applicable.
United States: The bride’s family pays for the costs of the wedding day, and the groom’s family pays for the rehearsal dinner. Most families meet together to discuss who pays for what and how much to spend.