You might have read that title and thought, “um, NEVER!” But really, hear us out. There’s actually a few scenarios where some flirting between the bridal party is actually a good thing. Don’t you want your single friends to find love? How cool would it be for your friends to find love at your own wedding? Well as long as it doesn’t take away anything from your big moment, of course. Plus, you and your fiancé will know both sides! We’ve outlined 7 totally appropriate times for a groomsmen to totally hit on a bridesmaid:
1. When she’s single
This is the most obvious answer. Only scumbags try to flirt and hookup with taken women! If you catch one of your groomsmen looking longingly at a bridesmaids, check in and make sure she’s single. Once you’ve got that cleared with your bride, tell your groomsman to brush up on his best pickup lines.
2. When he has you and your fiancé’s permission
If you have a few single groomsmen in your party, you might even want to bring up this subject before the wedding. Especially if you know there’s single bridesmaids available. If you have any issues with flirting between the bridal party speak now or forever hold your peace. Or if you’re totally cool with it, it’ll be easier to go ahead and have that conversation now rather than during the reception.
3. When you are both on the same page
Once you’ve given out permission you might even want to further help out your bro. Make sure that the bridesmaid even wants to be hit on. Just because she’s single doesn’t mean she wants to be flirted with at a wedding. Check in with your bride on the lowdown on the bridesmaids because you’re going to want to avoid any awkward moments during the wedding. Especially if you are both the groomsman and bridesmaid are walking up the aisle together.
4. When she’s sober
This is another no brainer. Make sure your groomsmen only flirts when the bridesmaid is sober. If they actually want to get to know her and not make it out to be a quick hookup, this is the best option. Plus, it’s really sleazy to flirt and try to hook up with a girl once she’s been drinking. You don’t want your bro to get that kind of reputation, do you?
5. When it doesn’t get in the way of your wedding duties
You can’t let your groomsmen blow off their wedding duties just to flirt! Make sure that the wedding has their full attention. You might need to have a conversation about this before the wedding. Remember, your friends are here to support you. Not to find a girlfriend.
6. After the ceremony
Make sure your groomsmen are on the same page about their flirting. They’ll need to keep it professional during the ceremony! Make sure that the flirting stays for the pre-ceremony parties or during the reception. The groomsmen will need to keep their head clear for the ceremony.
7. Keep any hookups away from the wedding
They. Cannot. Hook. Up. During. The. Wedding. We can’t stress that enough! If they both sneak off to a broom closet, everyone will know and things get awkward. Plus, this draws attention away from your wedding, which will result in a furious bridezilla. It’s best for the pair to keep things as discreet as possible.