A Chinese bride joins her in-law’s family when she gets married. Translation: it means that her biological family ‘loses’ her. To make the loss less painful and foster goodwill between the families, the groom offers the bride’s family a monetary gift or Pin Jin. It’s normally presented during “Guo Da Li", along with any other gifts.
How much Pin Jin is acceptable? There’s not really a standard. The important thing is both families are happy with the amount. The bride and groom can sit down with their families to make negotiations simpler. The bride can explain to her parents about the groom’s financial background. She can also explain their post-wedding plans, like buying property or starting a family. It’s important to set reasonable expectations. Both families will agree on the final amount during wedding negotiations.
In recent Hong Kong weddings, the Pin Jin amount ranges from 4 to 6 digits. To keep it simple, some just set it to 10% of the total wedding expenditure. For good fortune, the amount should be a lucky number. Most people favor HKD$8,888 to $38,888, as these amounts symbolize prosperity and good luck. The Pin Jin also depends on how traditional the bride’s family is. If they are, the amount rises. If they’re not, then the groom can show his generosity in other ways. Giving dried seafood and wine is acceptable. Oh, and an auspicious amount, of course.