Your wedding day is a once in a lifetime event so extremely careful planning of all the nitty-gritty details is crucial - especially when it comes to picking your wedding date. Choosing a wedding date is one of the biggest decisions in the early stage of wedding planning. Some couples prefer choosing a date which represents a special meaning for the couple. Some just base it on the availability of the hotel venue. Some just pick a random Saturday or Sunday. For couples with more traditional and superstitious families, parents or grandparents may insist on selecting an auspicious date to ensure a successful and blissful marriage. Here are some ways that can help you set a lucky wedding date for your big day:
1. Check the Chinese Almanac Calendar
To help you choose an auspicious date for your wedding, you can ask your parents or elders to select an auspicious date for you using a Chinese calendar or a Chinese almanac if they are superstitious. A typical Chinese calendar has the date printed in Gregorian and underneath it is the date in Chinese. The bottom is a section for Feng Shui and astrology that state the good (“宜” or “yi”), favorable activities and bad (“忌” or “ji”) activities you should avoid on that particular day. Check the corresponding term for the following wedding events under “宜” or “忌”:
- “嫁娶” (wedding day)
- “結婚納采” (betrothal)
- “安床” (matrimonial bed ceremony)
For the unfavorable day, the “忌” section will also list 吉事 (or “joyous event”), meaning that you should avoid all types of events that bring joy on that date. It is also important to note that “不宜諸吉事” (or “unfavorable time for all joyous events”) under the “宜” section means that that specific day is not favorable for all joyous events.
2. Consult a Feng Shui Master
However, if you don’t understand some of the Chinese almanac’s terminology, you can also consult a fortune teller or Feng Shui master to help you pick an auspicious date for your wedding. To find out the best date for you as a couple, you will be asked some basic information, such as the names, birth date and birth time of you and your partner, and also the parents of both sides, as well as their ‘Ba Zi’ (or ‘birth profile’) and Chinese zodiac sign. They not only provide you a selection of dates to choose from, but they will also tell you the best date for Guo Da Li, the matrimonial bed ceremony, as well as the auspicious time for the groom to pick up the bride from her home.
3. Confirm with Feng Shui Apps
If you cannot find a time to consult a Feng Shui master, your next best alternative is to get help from online resources or even mobile apps. You can find lots of sites and apps that allow you to make a query with regards to your wedding date. It’s quick and gets the job done. For example, the ’Chinese Calendar’ app is a professional almanac mobile app that is built with reference to ancient books and records of Feng Shui. It is used by many Chinese Feng Shui practitioners and destiny diviners for selecting dates and times for important events like marriage, engagements, moving homes, and travel. With this app, you can submit your basic information such as the birth dates of you and your partner, as well as the month or period you would like to have your wedding. It will list out the auspicious dates from the luckiest ones to the least luckiest. For each date, it will also tell you if your Chinese horoscope “clashes” on a specific day and what you have to watch out for.
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Last piece of advice: There are some particular dates that are considered unfavorable for wedding. Couples should not get marry on their parents’ birth dates or on ‘personal clash days’ (days that clash with your ‘Ba Zi’). Other dates that are not recommended for weddings include “24 Solar terms” days, “Year breaker” days, “Month breaker” days, “four departure” days, Ching Ming festival, Yu Lan festival and Chongyang festival. These can all be looked up on the Chinese almanac calendar.