Something that many guys can fear or have anxiety about when getting married is talking to the fiancé’s father when asking for her hand in marriage. It can be extremely stressful and even a little intimidating, but there are some things you can do to limit the stress. If you are feeling uneasy about the big conversation, read below for 7 ways to relax before you talk to her father:
1. Have a Drink
Some liquid courage can go a long way. They can work as a confidence booster, help you go out of your comfort zone, and even be a little more open. When you tell your future father in law what your intentions are with his daughter, you might need some additional confidence.
2. Talk to Her Mom First
Most of the time mothers can seem to be a little bit more open and welcoming than their husbands. Chances are that if she is close with her daughter, she will already know what your future plans are. Mothers can be calming, add insight, and have some tips from her experience of going through the engagement stage.
3. Talk with Her Siblings or Best Friends
They would be more than willing to help you practice and can possibly give you additional information about her father that you may not know. They can also be brutally honest and give you some great feedback that will help you find your best route when you talk to her father.
4. Practice with Your Father, Uncle, or Relative
If you are able to talk to your father, uncle, cousin, or any male relative that you respect it could help you when the time comes to talk to her father. Not only can they offer you advice when they went through the same situation.
5. Watch a Romantic Movie
Sometimes finding the right words to say can be challenging. They can be especially challenging in a high pressure and maybe stressful situation. Even if you are not a huge fan of the romantic genre of film, it could inspire you to find the right words you want to say. It would be pretty important to only use them only for inspiration and not to take the words directly, because that could end in a terrible way if he has seen the movie you reference.
Working out is a great stress reliever by itself, but when you add in the potential stress of asking for her hand in marriage from her father, it could help physically and mentally. In additional to making you feel at ease and relaxed, it could give you some added confidence and an overall freshness for the big discussion. You want to make sure that you do not work out so hard that you cannot have a normal conversation without losing your breath or being able to walk.
7. Practice in Front of a Mirror
We practice giving speeches, interviews, and even one-liners in front of mirror, so why not practice for this situation? It could be helpful to see how you look while you are preparing to give a pretty significant and heartfelt conversation to your future father in law.