It’s one of the biggest moments of your life: your wedding day. After finding the right one, months of planning, and handling everything in between, you need someone who will help you make it through the day without any hassle. Make sure you have a best man who will live up to the title and handle anything that comes his way.
It may seem like an easy decision at the surface, especially if you have brothers, but this is a decision that is actually much more complicating than picking your childhood friend or sibling. Every groom needs a best man who has been there for him through thick and thin and will continue to be an important part of his life. It’s one thing to pick someone to plan a bachelor party or “night out” but picking someone to stand next to you on your wedding is entirely different.
A lot of grooms may end up picking their long-time best friend which can work well or it can work terribly. It’s risky to pick someone as your best man if they know you too well. There are always things you may not want to be brought up in public and especially in front of your new in-laws. Your best friend who knows everything about you may be a big risk to keeping these things within the circle of friends. A best man acts as an extension of the groom on his wedding day and it’s important that you pick a best man who will act in a certain way that is appropriate for your wedding day.
You don’t want to pick your party buddy from college who is going to get drunk and deliver a crude or nasty speech, and you don’t want to pick someone who doesn’t know anything about the bride. It’s important to choose someone who knows the bride as well, because she will also have high standards and expectations of your best man on the big day.
Some grooms may forget that there are additional duties of a best man on the wedding day given that the speech is usually what highlights the night. You’ll want someone who can handle stress as well as the ability to multi-task, as they will most likely be in charge of some transportation, rings, marriage certificates, and other minor planning details. Good traits to consider for your best man should be: organization, time management, and communication.